Monday, 30 March 2015.
Divoris is one of the main problems that has permeated our society and has had a negative impact on society in the economic, social and psychological terms, especially for the parties involved. On the economic side, the parties involved in the divorce proceedings have financial implications and may ultimately be worth more affluent couples when they have to share their property. In social terms, a person may be regarded as a failure, especially if they have more than one divorce. This may have a psychological impact on such persons as they are criticized and the pain of divorce. In addition, in cases where children are married, they may suffer after divorce. Children may also exacerbate legal battles in divorce, as parents seek custody, and this may result in children being chosen by the parties in certain cases. It could be psychologically nervous for children and cause tension between parents. This could lead to emotional, psychological and legal battle. Although in most cases women are in the care of children, there are cases where men have custody rights. This may result in women and divorce being even more complex in the same sex families
The divorce has suddenly become a very important issue that needs to be urgently addressed because of the frequency of divorce. The fact that divorce affects children also makes it important for society. According to the statistics
U.S. Census Bureau, one of every two divorces (McCurley & McCurley 1). In the United States, the estimates of the first marriages, which end with the separation of marriages between marriages, range between 40 and 50 per cent. This estimate is even larger to get 60% for second marriages (Hawkins & Fackrell 42). Divorces have been divorced over the past five decades, compared to the 1970s and 1980s
Professional counselling through family counselling is considered a possible solution that couples can take to try to save their marriage. At the time of marriage, advisors usually help stakeholders to examine the root causes of their problems and how they can be addressed. The consultants often use their knowledge and understanding of human and psychological behaviour to help couples solve their problems and maintain their marriage. Through counselling, couples are given a platform to interact with a neutral third party, in this case an adviser who not only points to his individual weaknesses and mistakes, but also helps each one to see the best in the other
Any connection and marriage, in particular, is an alliance between two people who agree to marry. This makes it possible for these two parties to find effective solutions when their relationship or marriage faces problems. In most cases, problems occur when a couple stops communicating and spends more time with other people or pursuing parallel goals. This makes it necessary for the pair to approach specific solutions that are suitable for resuscitation of their partnership. Therefore, it is logical to say: “Your relationship will improve after you stop working on changing your comrade and warm your friend to be who they are” (McDonald & Jackson, 15). Thus couples can maintain their marriage by accepting their partners and working together
Although the lack of an obligation is one of the reasons why 73% of couples divorced, adultery is the most common cause of divorce (Hawkins & Fackell 44). The absence of an obligation may arise if the couple cannot ignore the problems of their marriage due to other obligations that consume their time and energy. In addition, some couples may face this problem, as they are relatting contentious issues in their marriage. In the end, the rejection of the relationship and the waiver of the obligation between the parties. When their problems are resolved, couples can use the connection as an important tool for resolving differences (Amato & Previous 605)
In a turbulent attitude, women are often perceived as more vocal than men, because they are more closely watched over their nature (Amato & Previoti 605). Men, on the other hand, often leave the conversation and avoid discussing problems related to their relations. This led to women’s initials of divorce. On the other hand, men tend to give up discussions about relationships and the more reason women start to divorce. Thus, open communication is the best way to deal with problems related to marriage and to prevent divorce. Even if consultations with third parties, such as marriage advisers, can offer viable solutions, more durable solutions are the decisions that the couple initiated after intimate discussions and mutual agreements. Third parties may also not receive support from both married couples, and therefore their decisions may not be viable in each marriage
The lack of communication between paired couples is considered extremely dangerous, as it creates loopholes for other factors, such as infidelity, which may lead to divorce. Accuracy, which is one of the causes of divorce, is perceived differently by men and women. While women think emotional infidelity is wrong, men perceive sexual infidelity as negative. According to the study, 71% of the wrong men and 49% of the wrong women state that infidelity arises due to ineffective communication concerning sexual needs between couples (Norhtrup et al)
In order to avoid divorce, couples must strive to work together and report openly about their problems in relation to each other. Studies show that most divorced women want them to settle their differences and avoid divorce. Even though infidelity is one of the main causes of divorce, the lack of obligations is the main reason why couples were unable to resolve their differences. Although marriage counselling is important in helping couples to resolve their problems, marriage can be maintained only when the couple decides to communicate and work through their differences
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